It all began with a question from my 18 year old - Is it truly possible for a married woman to be a pastor and still be a submissive wife who responds Biblically to her husband's leadership in the home? Now, I know that there are those with strong opinion's on both sides of the issue of women in the pulpit. That's not really what the discussion was about. I listened to my two oldest discuss this issue with some passion. The whole issue of submission was discussed with some measure of intensity.
We didn't stumble across some incredible insight that tied the whole issue up into a neat, easily explained package. I'm fairly certain it's an issue that the two of them will still wrestle with from time to time. But they are wrestling. They are questioning. They are working to make sure that the faith they possess is truly theirs, and not just a series of cliches and clever phrases they've heard and memorized. We didn't all agree with each other. We didn't even really solve anything. But I don't think that was ever possible.
I loved hearing my girls discuss the issue so passionately. I loved discussing the issue with them, not as "my little girls" but as women. In Philippians 2:12 & 13 we read - "Therefore, my dear friends, as you have always obeyed - not only in my presence, but now much more in my absence - continue to work out your salvation with fear and trembling, for it is God who works in you to will and to act according to his good purpose." So I cherish these types of conversations with my children. Yes, they will occasionally take a stance that disagrees with mine or their father's. But what matters most to me is that they are thinking and talking and asking questions. For that, any amount of sleep lost is worth it!